i do find that people give advice without elaborating on it .. which confuses the newbie. advice is only good if it's communicated effectively and clearly.
I think it's best to keep things vague, MIL. That way, no one gets offended, and we don't encourage anyone to go off half-cocked in one direction or another. We wouldn't want someone to misread our advice, however well-intentioned, and do something stupid with it, y'know?
That's why I say to "do what works," GAL, set your goals and do your 180s and act "as if." These are all in the book, and if we play them right down the middle, it's best for all concerned.
