My Situation - any thoughts or ideas

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I have a question for those of you that have successfully either reconciled or at least gotten to piercing...

Did you WAS continue to make "definite" comments about D until right before a major change or did the "phase" out?

My W continues to be adamant ("when we're D", "After the D", etc) about D and I know I need to believe nothing the says, I just wonder if that will change slowly or continue right up to the last minute.