cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[mishka422]

So sorry you were feeling so alone sweetie. I understand the frustration and loneliness. It's hard, but you will pick your way through those emotions to the other side.

Your H is a real piece of work. He wants a D but then just goes about galavanting with his A partner in front of the whole world while still M'd to you and does nothing to further the D. Yep, exactly what my xh did. I finally had to be the one to push the D through. I didn't bother calling my L, I walked into her office, told her paralegal to pull out all of my D paperwork and get it filed pushed through. I called xh, told him to be at my L's office at 11am on such and such day to sign the papers. Told him if he chose not to do that then I would take it straight to the court and he would be in a lot deeper financial trouble than what I was asking for. He showed, still didn't want to sign it, my L told him that she would be more than happy to go to court on this and get his A partner on the stand in open court to answer for her actions in the destruction of a family (lots of back story to that one and in GA adultery is used in deciding custody and financial settements). He caved and signed.

Had to play major hardball to get him to sign the papers that he so desperately wanted! This is how WAS's operate in most cases. They want what they want but when it comes down to the practicalities of it they freak out. They tend to only see how 'wonderful' their new life will be without us, they don't consider that their actions have consequences.

You're a tough cookie. Get tougher. Storm into your L, demand action. You are paying for it. Your H has his own L? Then the two L's can get this done in no time at all. You have to be more pushy though.

Good luck.