So..........my H is buying a house.

[Albuquerque]

I want to LIVE for myself.

So really what the hell is stopping you? I mean really? Is it fear? Is it finances? Is it the kids? What is it?

I really have no idea what this means. How do I live for ME? That is something I have NEVER done, and it's sad to say that I don't know how to do this. AND my life and what I do on a daily basis is pretty much full - doing for others, and my kids - primarily my kids, and I don't know what I am supposed to do for ME.

Handling, Eric has asked some very good questions above. For me, your response above is the MOST telling. THIS is what, above all else, you need to work on. If YOU don't know who you are, how can anyone else? If you don't find YOURSELF interesting, how can anyone else? If you don't find your personality/interests attractive, how can anyone else? We all have kids/life/work etc. I'm probably being harsh here, but I frankly don't believe you have NO time to devote to yourself. Both you and your kids will BENEFIT from you discovering who you are. Do you want your kids to live their lives for others or do you want them to grow up confident and independent and ready to take on the world? Be an example. Find the real Handling.