When DBing, do what works.

Get a Life (GAL).

Take care of yourself, do your homework, and try to be evenhanded in everything you do -- nothing too dramatic.

Work on yourself, and leave your spouse alone unless you need to send boundaries (there are all kinds of different way to do that).

Most of all, err on the side of caution.

Starsky

M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)