Yes, Saffie, I totally agree, the OW is a symptom.
The hard part is showing him I want him now... I think that will just push him away since I think he is in an A. That is a hard balance at this point I guess.

I think if I would have figured it out sooner and changed before we separated it would have made a huge difference. While I continue to make changes for me, now he seems fully committed to a D and being with whoever it is he is with right now.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."