Hi Sanderika and Cas05, if we aren't careful these MLCers take over our headspace all too easily, even those of us who have been doing it forever - and I speak as one who experiences it regularly. My court date has been postponed again, at a matter of days notice, with the weirdest letters coming from my h's side as to the 'reasons' for this. He seems to have found lawyers as strange as he is.
It is very hard not to get sucked back into their drama. Don't they realise that if they really want a divorce it is not that hard??
As for your MIL Cas, she is an interfering old bat. Please do not confuse your h by involving him in any way.
Try not to take what they are doing personally. This is very hard, but it really isn't about you, and if you feel it is intended to hurt you, well what person in their right mind wants to do that to another human being?
As Snodderly said long ago, patience, compassion and understanding are the vital mix. Yes, we need our boundaries, but if they hurt us it is out of their own deep and still undealt with hurt, whether or not it is or feels deliberate.
There is a lovely world out there, and we have to find our way back to it, and stay in it, not flounder around in their pain with them,
