As I ready your wonderful post along with yours on the love for you wife being unconditional. You're right God's love for us is unconditional. And God gives each of us "Free Will" to make decisions, right? Do you believe God puts 1 person in our lives for us to love, trust and spend our whole life with? So, those people who's H or W have embraced their "free will" by their actions toward God's gift of marriage, should have unconditional love no matter? You may want to read the 10 commanments, again.
I do see your point of view on many of your post. And I have allow M to excape from the a simular jail. Though the understanding, forgiveness, accepting, unconditional love for my H. Does Unconditional love mean that person is the only person I can share my New Live with? Or does unconditional love mean, one can love them not matter what their actions have been, are, will be but I want to live my life with a healthy person? But I'm not going to allow or accept my H control over me living my life the way God wants me to -- full of love and caring for our C and M. I believe God puts people in your life for you for a reason and pulls them out for a reason. If we look to God and pull our needs and wants out of the equation. He will show us his plan for our life.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
MHL - I'm seeing that lots of us that are on approximately the same time line are moving along on our journeys...and that fact is so obvious in your first post on this tread.
We are past the worsts, taking charge of our lives again....looking inside...learning....healing....finding peace.
All the best to you my friend you are way on your way
PS: So happy for you finding a good job, and saving your home...well done
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We are past the worsts, taking charge of our lives again....looking inside...learning....healing....finding peace.
Mila, You are soooo right, many of us are finding that peace. You really do "feel" it don't you?? I thought I was feeling it back in August but it was just the beginning of arriving where I am today.
That is not to say that I am done moving but I know I have come a long way. It is hard to describe the feeling, but all I can say is that I am truly focusing on MY life without regard to my W.
I still miss her but I don't "need" her, and you really have to "feel" that.......
You can pay lip service to anyone or everyone but until you "feel" it inside you, you are just fooling yourself.
I think Cat said it...."you will know when you are there" I think that coment was in reference to knowing when you are done and it was in the context of getting past the one year mark.
I am not done, however I am in a far different place, and I KNOW it.
I am so happy for you also, because I KNOW what you are feeling and it does feel good.
Nice to feel good for a change.
Happy Monday.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
MHL......beautiful, powerful, inspiring post. So glad you are feeling this way! I think all new posters should be given a copy of your post for their reference so that they can have a glimpse at the wonderful new world that awaits them! thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us all!
Yes, I did say that. And I will continue saying it. The truth is, it applies to everything. Questions, at least not nagging, true uncertainty, doesn't exist when you are ready to make a decision or move. You don't have to try to convince yourself or anyone else, that what you are doing is right. It is just something that is part of your life.
On another note, kicked your butt in the Fantasy Football this weekend...
No tie this time...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Congratulations on your new job (and pay raise) and new mortgage!!!!!!!! You deserve them both.
