Saw things clearer once you're in my rearviewmiror

[ClingingToHope]

I'm pretty the "list" was A) bait; and B) sarcasm.

I've gotten hammered on the boards for not being more involved with STBXW on her time with the girls. But this wasn't something I would have gotten worked up over. It's a girl thing. I don't mind leaving much of the girl things to STBXW.

I'm not sure of your schedule with DD. I see my girls 86 percent of the days during the school year so I haven't yet felt out of the loop. Maybe it's different for you.

Sure, I've missed some "big" moments in the girls lives in the past 18 months. The first time D8 swam to the dock at STBXW's family campground hurt. Swimming was always our thing, D8, D11 and me. STBXW usually would stay at her mom's trailer or sit on the beach while I swam with the girls.

So when D8 finally swam out to the dock it was HUGE and I wasn't there to share it. She called me right after.

But what I try to remember is that I'm going to have my share of firsts as well. I have had lots of moments that are just mine.

The other thing. I wouldn't have said anything on the phone. But that's just me. Those conversations never go anywhere. Nothing gets decided, things get misinterpreted and reopens old wounds.

I would have just used email. You can edit out hurt, anger and bitterness.