Just one more post outlining what I learned tonight.
1. I set the tone for how H treats me with his family. From now on, DBing extends to the in-laws.
2. SIL's whole family & FIL are my two best advocates inside the family.
3. I was able to enjoy the rest of the family, regardless of how H was behaving.
4. H has told SIL she can go ahead and tell her kids that he has moved out. SIL says it hasn't come up. This was about 1 1/2 weeks ago, right befor H started talking to me again.
5. I consider my MIL relationship to be unsalvagable. I am in the process of detaching from her permenantly. I can still behave with grace and dignity in her presence though, and I will. She can only hurt me if I allow her to, and I won't ever do that again. This is BTW what all 3 of her kids have warned me to do with her from first day I met her.
6. I am stronger than anyone ever gave me credit for.
7. Confidence attracts people to you and puts others at ease. Not just my H either.
8. Holding in the tinny bit of gut I still have after dropping 42 pounds for 3 hours makes for one sore tummy!
