Back on the boards...but not sure why

[missmyfriend]

Opti, I think what you are going through is completely normal and expected concerning your situation. I think most of us would find there are more similarities than differences (only the name have been changed to protect the...).

I would say that your last post is exactly why several divorce programs encourage people to wait for a period of time before dating again. We have gone through so many emotional upheavals and the last thing we really need is to be in a relationship even though it can make us "feel" cared about. Unfortunately, it usually leads to more heartache and sorrow.

I do agree with Michele on this topic, encouraging people to find other healthy activities such as a new hobby or other outlet.