Also he maintains there is no affair, so there is no reason not to be friends. He left because he was unhappy, he didn't tell me he was unhappy for the two years he was, and when he did finally tell me it was too late. But despite that he has never seen why people can't be friends with ex's. He never has. He understands the 'too hurt to be 'friends'' but not anything else. And I have a hard time verbalizing it. It still sounds to me that it's a 'you don't love me so I can't be your friend' which would be in his mind petty (he has told me this before) But I don't know how to explain that it's not.
He has checked out of our marriage. He doesn't feel he HAS to treat me as a wife because he no longer considers me his wife. He isn't (currently) treating me any different than he would another friend.
He has told me I expect MORE out a friendship, that I expect to be put above all his other friends, because I still think of us as us, rather than us as friends. And I do. He is treating me like just a casual friend. Anything negative is brought on by me. He doesn't initiate R talks at all, ever. The worst he gets is when he talks about me dating others and him dating others. But that's something he would talk about that with friends. I can't handle it because of our history. I am placed very firmly in the 'only friends' category. There has been no wavering. He will not ask me to come back or reconsider. The very most he will do is try to talk casually when we are around each other. He will let me go. I can almost promise you that.
Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
