Just wanted to say there is a newcomer to this board, i have been reading the forum for about three months, read DB, listened to KLA and also bought and watched the DVD's, trying to get the courage up to post my situation even though i know what the responses will be.
There are specifics to every sitch. A lot of things have been said on these forums that are worse than your sitch, there always will be.
Don't be afraid to post, but expect brutal honesty. This isn't to make you mad or make you feel worse, this will be to help you and then hopefully save your marriage.
It all takes time, a lot of time and there are no guaranteed results except for one. If you do the work you will become a better person regardless. If you start now you will get to a better place faster and could better your Marriage.
Welcome to divorcebusting.com. As you can see/read....you can expect it all when it comes to opinions. But the point here is to help you save your marriage....and you can do that.
The best advice is positive and directs you to finding your own solutions using the tools that are available. The worst advice tells you exactly what to do and insists you do it.
You are your OWN solution detective.
If you feel stuck, I recommend talking to a DB coach, and I've seen a lot of Laurie's advice. I did used to moderate, but I don't get paid or encouraged to say that...I believe it.
I personally came to the board 2 relationships post-divorce. I am now in a 9year relationship that is healthy and loving....and while I have a wonderful partner, I owe my (good) relationship skillset to Michele and her work. (My faults are all mine).
There are lots and lots of success stories on the board, lots of miracle stories and you can be one!
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
