When he tries to intereact with you at all just tell him this :
a. I don't see the merit in being friends with someone who has betrayed you... This is the antithesis of friendship b. Please keep your negative comments to yourself, they're abusive c. Friends and spouses commit stronger when things are strained, they don't run away - I don't want to be friends with someone who runs out on their wife d. If the husband of a friend of mine ran out on her I wouldn't maintain contact with him either e. Until you can treat me with respect and our marriage with dignity instead of abuse I really don't want to hear from you at all
And you walk away
He may not like hearing you say it, but he will respect you for standing up for yourself... And you will feel stronger for loving yourself enough to protect yourself too
Never mind what you've said already.. Give yourself a clean slate and start speaking up
Nothing above is designed to hurt, you are simply setting a boundary and telling him you won't be around him if he continues the road he's on now
a. Abusive talk - He gets no contact with you b. Negative commentary - He loses contact with you c. Wanting to be "friends" with someone he's abandoning - need I say more?
Think about it... would you stay friends with anyone who betrayed you like this?
Of course not...
Once a friend betrays you, you cut them off for your own protection.. but here he is he betrays you but wants to keep USING you even MORE
Cut him off until he starts acting like a friend
Sorry, but he isn't acting like a friend so don't allow him to BE your friend
And tell him so.. Not meanly, just matter of factly... And do NOT get into an argument or debate when you say it to him...
You state your boundary and if anything other than an apology and a commitment to treat you with respect comes out of his mouth WALK AWAY
If he doesn't end the behavior on the spot and commit to being civil then end the conversation... Don't even tell him you are ending the convo.. just spin around and walk away
