[quote=goodattitudegirl]Sounds like MIL thinks this is all about her. Wonder if this is the message she programmed into H when he was growing up?????
I think you could be right GAG. FIL does everything to please MIL. She's definitely the boss and I have known her to send off these 'bombs' to others in the past.
If MIL is that controlling Is it possible that H was quiet on his birthday because he was becoming annoyed with her? She may have triggered a downward spiral for him. If so, why didn't he just tell you that on the phone? Who knows what bombs she dropped elsewhere? OW could be licking her wounds too.........I think you did the right thing in initiating with H. Sounds like it went well. I am taking notes.
In my situation too, I have been phoning XH briefly from time to time for simple things (rarely called him since the bomb) and he has been pleasant and sounded pleasantly surprised to hear from me. This is a change for my XH. Maybe this is another similarity between our situations?
