Thanks Cat! Some of me wonders if I should have been more responsive to H in his R talk last week. I realise I fall into Fear and Defensiveness with him too quickly. Partially from family of origin stuff, partially from traumatic events in our own marriage.
Nowadays, I don`t get angry with him of course but I guess he can still see my defense mode in my body language and in how non committal I am. Oh, and in never admitting that I`m to blame for anything.
Sigh. I`ve a lot to learn.
Anyway, I haven`t brought it up. Don`t know if I should-just think I will if he initiates R talk again.
But, for now, he`s in withdrawal mode-physically absent or asleep when he`s here.
same as before-only this time, it doesn`t bother me.I`m very much doing my own thing.
Really would like to help more here on the boards as well but honestly I`m still wearing DB L plates 3 years on from bomb and 1 1/2 years after starting DB.
