CW I think a lot of us wonder if there is something wrong with us for not being able to
"handle an R." But who was the one who couldn't handle it, really...you know? Our spouses.

But it is normal,I have heard, to wonder what is wrong with US. Normal doesn't mean it's right, though.

Let yourself eat a lot of chocolate today if you want it.
Sorry to hear that your brother started telling people already--does he have evidence of his wife's EA?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004