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TH,

youre right. What difference does it make? None.

Steve, I didnt do this to act out. It was the first time I truly went out and did something on my own and looked forward to it. I had a good time, maintained my integrity and then came home. I am getting a life. She simply didnt like it.

I am trying to see your point? I went out for ME not to anger or upset her.


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I have let her go. I dont question what she does anymore and I dont question with whom. I don't engage in any contact with her that is not neccessary. I am living for my Son now. I am being respectful but I am not tolerating CB. and I am getting a life. I am trying to find the balance and that is where I need the Vet help. I am not interested in M or R talk and I wont be.

I have beeen trying to hard. I have wasted 1 month by wallowing in it. None of it worked. I get it. Now I am going to stop trying and GAL.


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Pcola,

You're trying to make sense of the senseless. Please stop; it's a cheeseless tunnel, and will only drive you nuts.

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Starsky.

that is what I am saying. I HAVE stopped.


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I dont go out of the house.. I am trying too hard.

I go out and enjoy myself, I am trying too hard.

the advice is to let go. I am truly doing it. I reported the results and I am still not doing the right thing?


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Originally Posted By: Pensacolabroken
Starsky.

that is what I am saying. I HAVE stopped.


Originally Posted By: Pensacolabroken
Trying to. Understand the nature:
So she wants out and I agree
She won't go
She whines that she dropped her friend off fb she keeps bringing him up now
She denies her EA OM says only friends.
She has been caught in lies. Denies she continues to be with him.
I tell her I don't care what she does or where she goes.
She is pissed I go to dinner with an old friend. She compares that to her friend says I can't say anything about her friend?
She tells me she wanted me to be in a relationship so I will leave? Her actions make no sense
I tell her that is neccessary I am moving on and she is out of line,I have let her go and she replies "sounds good". This confuses me. I think she still deciding. I am moving on




Are you even reading what you are posting to us, Pcola?


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Yeah man... I feel your pain here but you are ALLLLL over the place.

You are not going to "understand" or figure anything out. It's going to take a lot of time before anything is "figured out".

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Also, I can sense your desperation through my monitor... Just calm down man.

You keep asking Gucci for help, but really, go and read any post by him or Rob and you will see the exact same message said over and over and over and over.

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Yep you're right. Going to stop posting for a while and see where I am at. She wants a divorce I have accepted it and I am getting a life. We walked through the house and she and I divided up property onpaper. The start for her to move out.


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I understand where you are coming from Pensacola. You are trying to move on, but you still look for signs that the person who used to want to be with you is still there. It is extremely hard to watch a person who used to treat you with love, treat you this way. I keep trying to make sense of it as well, and looking for signs that he will "snap" out of it, while at the same time I know what I need to do is move on. You feel like you are part of some crazy nightmare.

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