And MIL appears to endorse this but she claims it suits both ow and H. I wonder if ow would agree. I wonder what H tells ow about our dinners etc. I'm sure he tells her nothing.
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
Sounds like MIL thinks this is all about her. Wonder if this is the message she programmed into H when he was growing up?????
I think you could be right GAG. FIL does everything to please MIL. She's definitely the boss and I have known her to send off these 'bombs' to others in the past.
So I listened to Beatrice and decided that I needed to clarify with H about his birthday so I made a brief call to him. H said he was quiet for no particular reason at lunch.
He said he felt pressure from everyone to decide what to do in the second town we visited. I briefly explained that I suggested going there as MIL and FIL hadn't been there and I thought he might also enjoy it. I explained that I was trying to consider him and his preferences given that it was his birthday. He said he understood but next time I should just make the decision. He said not to give it any further thought because it was all history as far as he was concerned.
I thanked him for doing all the jobs he has done for me and confirmed my appreciation. He down played it and assured me it was no big deal.
I said that I was more than happy to continue to help him with his resume/application letters. (MIL said I should stop doing this and stop looking for jobs for him. I haven't ever looked for jobs for him and I have no interest in doing so! I have proofread and modified his applications as per his request)
I've tried to be a little proactive just in case MIL sends H an email.
I cancelled this week's dinner as I have lots of uni work to do. I decided the space will probably do me good anyway.
So thanks for your advice Beatrice. MIL's email is where it belongs...in the trash both physically and mentally! (But a copy in a hidden computer folder just in case)
