My STBXW said she still wanted to be friends too. Said she likes hanging out and talking with me. Has fun when we go out, etc. I told her that I am not going to be her friend and I mean it. I am going to find someone who does love me to send my time with and they will get my attention. Someone even went so far as to say that my new W will be helping me to raise YOUR kids and spending holidays with them.
How do those things feel. I understand that you are afraid he really will run, given his history, so I can't tell you what to do, but I know that if we are divorced, I will not want to be her friend. How will that help ME?
You have to decide this for yourself and yo are right, maybe this would equate to working on the relationship. How long are you willing to do this? Forever? If you do this, you won't have time for anyone else. If he never comes around, you will have lost much time.
You have to decide how much you want this and how long you are willing to put up with this kind of BS.
