The starting point was setting a boundary when someone (presumably one’s spouse) calls a person an “idiot.” An alternative to the orthodox approach was suggested: first listen and validate, and then set the limit. The reactions ranged from whether the same approach would work for a spouse having an affair to being abused by one’s spouse. While a one-size-fits-all approach may work for some, it doesn’t for me. I do believe there is a considerable difference between being called a name and being mugged.
I am surprised that hasn’t been any openness to even the thought that there might be something different than the consequence approach.
That's just it we are talking about being mugged by your spouse- abuse, affairs, squandering family assets, hurting the kids. I don't believe you are reading along here.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
