Today is my soon to be Ex husbands birthday. The first one since we seperated.
Do I acknowledge it ? Do I call or text a breif happy birthday message ?
I had our Daughter's call him to say Happy birthday, should I as well ?
Not sure what to do if anything at all, he wants to be divorced, so I think I shouldn't do anything but then maybe I should be the bigger person and just say it.
Thanks, Shelby
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
my Birthday was Wednesday and I can tell you, my WAW wrote a card and instead of the usual like last year love speak it said simply "love WAW"... i threw it in the trash when she wasnt looking.. then she made sure she slipped in a Happy Birthday on my FB page.. so I basically took it as a platitude.. it didnt mean sqaunto.. Save yourself the humiliation and keep your dignity.. screw his Birthday...
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
Do I acknowledge it ? Do I call or text a breif happy birthday message ?
There's a part of you that wants to acknowledge the birthday, and perhaps another part is concerned about sending a message you don't intend. Maybe it would help to express (here) what message you do want to convey.
My waw got me a card for my bd. I threw it away she got nothing from me.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
The day is almost over so my take on it is probably too late. But, for the record, I think the only good time to have done it would have been when you had your daughter call him. That way you could have thrown in a happy birthday in a "by the way" tone. Look, it's obvious you wanted to tell him this, otherwise you wouldn't be asking if it's ok. And I actually think if you are at least on casual/cordial terms with the guy, if you don't do it, you look like you are overly angry and that's not something that would look attractive to him. There's a big difference too between saying a simple happy birthday and offering to take him out for it or buying him gifts.
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10
I guess it just felt strange not to acknowlege it at all. We always used to celebrate these days together. My birthday is not for several months and I have no idea if he would acknowledge it or not.
I do feel the way some of you have mentioned, that this is what he wants to be divorced and not involved any more, so then I shouldn't acknowledge it.
But then again I do not want to come across as angry or upset if I do not say anything to him.
We have been getting along fairly well....until last weekend when I was reminded, A reminder that I very much needed. About just how selfish and self centered he is right now.
And maybe that is why I am so confused, a week ago, I am sure I would have said a simple Happy Birthday, But right now I feel I do not know this man right now.
Maybe tomorrow if it is still on my mind alot I can send out a "hope you had a nice day" message to him.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
