Nope, actually not judging you at all. That would make me a hypocrite.
I'm challenging your statements, which IMO come across as contradictory, in order to try to better understand your POV. I'm not injecting my own personal beliefs at all at this point.
Of course each sitch is unique as are it's issues. Frankly, I see my sitch very clearly as well.
If you and Billy-Bob go to a movie or have a drink do you call it a "date"? The fact that you call them dates and come right out and say that you are in fact looking for someone to have your next R with makes it very different from hanging out with your guy pals.
I'm curious as to how you plan on dealing with the emotional fallout during this process if you are detaching by distraction? Are you 100% sure that if your wife had a change of heart (yes I know she's long gone, but I'm playing devil's advocate here) and knocked on your door tomorrow that you would not be interested in exploring reconciliation? The women you are dating know your sitch, they know what you tell them, but I guarentee there is still possibility for someone to get hurt if you haven't explored the answers to some of these questions in depth. And I'm going to challenge you and say that I would be surprised if, based on your registration date, you've had the TIME to really examine some of this stuff. Especially if you've been GAling your buns off There is "done", and then there is "wait a minute, I thought I was done but I still have feelings I need to process and work to do on my own sense of self and self esteem so, oops ... sorry". Being on either end of that scenario sucks.
Just my 2 cents ... PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
There is "done", and then there is "wait a minute, I thought I was done but I still have feelings I need to process and work to do on my own sense of self and self esteem so, oops ... sorry". Being on either end of that scenario sucks.