When I found out I had breast cancer...I was not surprised given my family history...I expected to get it and I did. I had surgery, all looked good and thought it had been taken care of, that I was done and life would go back to normal.
Then, the oncologist recommended chemo...I was devastated! I didn't think I'd have to do that but he said there might be little reble cancer cells floating around in my body and that we wanted to be sure and get them all so that the chances of it coming back would go down!
So...I did it...there was lots of things I didn't like about it but it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be and here I am, 2 yrs later...surviving!
Now...replace the word cancer with MLC...replace the word chemo with divorce...a divorce may have to happen in order for the MLC to go away and stay away for good this time.
CW, I REALLY liked this analogy! It has really helped me to look at my situation from a different perspective.
Jody told me that after counseling for 30 some years she has come to realize that there are relatively few quality men and women out there. I think that many of the people on this board.........including YOU..........fall into that category. H's MLC is about him and unfinished business from the past.
I watched Oprah's interview with Tyler Perry a week ago. It was very interesting. He was $exually, emotionally, and physically abused as a child and said that he has had a difficult time in Rs with women (he is single). That was interesting to me because he writes such sensitive and positive movies. You can tell that he has done a lot of work on himself...........At one point in the interview he said that it has taken him a long time to figure out what triggers in the environment made him shut down emotionally. He is still figuring this out. ............CW, my point is, you probably don't know all the triggers your H may have that made him shut down emotionally.
