All quiet today...she is at a Girl Scout camping trip with my DD10. When I came home yesterday, she looked like she had been crying or upset. I loaded the car with the camping gear gave my DD a kiss and kissed the wife on the cheek and away they went. Had a logistical TM exchange with W last night and that's about it.
She was unapologetic about the drinking/throwing up incident. Her initial response was she had a glass of wine and 1 and 1/2 glasses of brandy with no dinner in honor of her friends dying father...THANKS for your lack of understanding.
Something similar happened last year when we went to a memorial service and she drank then got sick and had to throw up out of the window of our car with my DD10 in the back. Even had to lie to her best friend why my W couldn't make it to see her while W's BF was in town.
Similar incident two years ago at a wedding only both DD's were in the car this time while she threw up out the back window.
Yesterday on the phone she told me "good luck finding someone else".
It's just hard to say goodbye to a twenty year relationship so I'm struggling today. My DD8 has a birthday party this afternoon and the dad is a single parent we met on a camping trip.
You know I expended tons of effort the last two months with surprise dates, an over nighter, etc. The sex was great and more frequent than any other time in our 20 years but sex alone can't sustain a relationship. I enjoyed sleeping in the same bed together for the first time in over a year. Just sad because my expectations were so high.
Am I asking to much to be shown some unsolicited affection? An occasional hug or I Love You just because from my W and romantic partner of 20 years?
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
