Does the signed off divorce free your heart? Does an unsigned divorce trap it?
I would argue that even some divorced people are not emotionally available to begin another relationship, especially if they are not the instigator of the proceedings. And conversely, not all people who's divorces are not yet finalized are still emotionally tied to their spouse. Probably depends on how long it takes ...
You should not be starting a relationship with someone until you are emotionally ready to engage. Period. FTR, I agree with everything except implying that the actual legal divorce will ready someone to move on (or that without it they can't get there). I do conceed that it's certainly a good place to start for most
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
