To feel better about yourself? Why don't you feel better about yourself anyway?
Exactly! Great point ... it's why we should all do the work necessary to become emotionally healthy individuals. Carrying the same baggage forward into another R will end you up in the same place.
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
And then there's the integrity thing. I think you owe it to yourself to be who you say you are and live by your own values so that you can respect yourself.
Bingo! Ok, the funny thing is Grit could have written this ... you two aren't as far apart ideologically as it might appear ... hmmmm......
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
don't betray your own values and sacrifice your own integrity just because somebody treated you badly or because you have low self-esteem and think you cannot have self-esteem without a romance in your life.
TH,brotha we don't always see eye to eye but this stuff is bang on IMO.
Personally I don't believe the D has to be final before dating begins (but maybe that's because they take so damn long to get in Canada), but I do think the individual has to do the work and be dating for the right reasons as you highlight above.
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
