More importantly how does it make you feel to be a waffle with whipped cream on top?
The point here Pin is IMO you are still struggling with the emotions and insecurity that is driving your decisions.
This sh!t sucks and we have been there.
What all of us are trying to say to you is don't make decisions based on your emotions
Anger Self Doubt Frustration Resentment Whatever
THAT is why the first things said to you is to detach. GAL. This all helps to get your emotions back in check and to get your self esteem back.
It takes time and you WILL make mistakes. They are mistakes if you don't learn and do better.
Part of this is also to forgive yourself for letting yourself be a victim. Cause it doesn't feel good when you realize you are victim and that you are the reason you are.
So
IMO you have to figure out what kind of man you want to be cause IF you are going to move out I know what question I would ask myself:
If my kids ask me "why did you move away daddy?"
Because Mommy wasn't doing what I wanted
Because I thought that if I did Mommy would be attracted to me again and ask me back.
Because I wanted to punish Mommy for her not feeling like she wanted me anymore
Because ___________.
You better make damn sure you can make that statement whatever it is from your core buddy if you even know what that is yet.
Make it with NO REGRETS. Whatever the outcome.
Me?
I wouldn't leave. You can give someone space and let them go without physical separation.
You might feel like you are waffle but at least you scraped a layer of whipped cream off yourself.
Then you can answer the question:
Why did Mommy leave?
Well Mommy left because that was her choice.
I don't know why Mommy left because I can't read Mommy's mind.
But I love you my darling children and that is why I did not leave and I love your Mommy and that is why I let her go.
This is a process Pin. Keep steppin'
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
