D7 continues to chat about OW and OWD7. She told me that OW took her shopping after picking her up at school. I managed to stay calm and nod and smile (all the while texting someone to help me stay calm!).
OW does not have my permission to pick my children up from school. Period.
Some of you might disagree with me, but I do not see this as "different parenting approaches". There is tons written on when/how and how much to expose children to the OP. Yes, I get that it is done and I can't turn back time. But I do feel like he needs to know how I, as their MOTHER, feel about this. Will it matter? Not likely. Not why I'm telling him. I am their mother and as such I have a responsibility to do what is best for them. For me, that includes a conversation with their father about the potential ramifications of this.
I know he won't hear anything I say. As far as he's concerned I'm just the jealous, bitter ex if I try to express anything related to the OW.
I signed up for a Positive Parenting From Two Homes course. H had asked for the info so I emailed him to let him know that I had registered. I told him that the first available course is in January. I also said that I was uncomfortable waiting until January to discuss the one outstanding issue we seem to be unable to make peace with. I asked if he would be open to a discussion with a mediator or a therapist present to help us try to find some middle ground.
H replied that he too would register for the course and yes he thinks a sit down with our MC as third party would be a good idea.
I do not have an expectation that he will do anything based on the sit down, but then I will know that I did what I could to protect the kids. I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I have a little hope that once presented with the info from an objective third party he might slow down …. Not an expectation, just a hope. I have a feeling she’s on the cusp of moving in. At first I thought they would wait a couple of months, but he’s moving this weekend and since they’ve been spending 24/7 together I’m sure it’s on the agenda.
Last night D7 asked me “why do we see OW so much?” I really didn’t know how to answer that so I said “Sweetie, you’ll have to talk to Daddy about that.”
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
