Why hold onto someone who doesn't want to be married. Take all the pressure off them and give them what they want - standing by, waiting for them to change, holding onto your vows, threatening them etc - it's all pressure. Put yourself in their shoes, what does it look like?
I guess I do not understand this.
If I date, I date with intent to look at someone to the future...if I wanted to be friends then this wouldn't even be an issue. You know interest vs friendship.
Okay, I love my Wife, I REALLY DO. I see this you love em set em free post and think why the hell am I on this site anymore? Oh ok...to better myself! Cool, I'm working on that and I see the changes I've made, and now EVERYONE in my r/l sees it. All of a sudden I'm not the POS Nice Guy anymore. I'm valuable, I've forgiven myself, and I'm progressively moving forward. I AM special...I'm me.
What now? Just let her Divorce me and silently sit by and let opportunities pass me by while I wait for someone who isn't attracted to me and IS crazier than crazy continue to pull the same old circus routine on me? Or do I apply DB information and try to stand by my vows understanding this is NOT my normal wife? (i.e. Crisis, Affair drug, Childhood Issues, whatever)
At what point do you stand for your marriage (without stopping her from doing what she wants) and at what point do you proceed with your future?
Thank you guys for your comments, but let's see what the "elites" have to say. Since so many of them come from there pedestals to help us "unfortunate" ones.
Not attacking, but I want to understand this pov more.
P.s. these are just words and no matter how many times I re-read this, it seems angry, but I'm not really angry - more like I'm done what the hell am I here for frustration. I just don't know how else to word it.
