SHould I say I love you?

[Grocerykartman]

JS,

A couple of obsrvations...

I know you feel like you are in crisis mode and have to let off steam dude, but you may want to seriously think about the amount of swearing/"censored"s that you are posting. Reason I say this is, it's not the swearing in and of itself, but what it shows is a lack of control and composure. If you are saying this many "censored" things on all of your POSTS to people (who in general) already understand your anger and frustration, what are you saying to your W right now whom you are at wit's end with? Just asking here, because if you are swearing like this to her, that will probably not help your cause. Women need to see their man in control, and it doesn't come off that you are with all of the censoreds.

With regard to your cell phone, turn off the texting because you want to save money. That should be the only reason. If you are also doing it because you want to weaken her ability to contact OM, that will just encourage her to find a sneakier way to do it, and it will not work overall. She's not a child, she's an adult and therefore will find a way to be with him since infatuation is a very powerful thing. Don't buy her "financial abuse" garbage, she's using that word abuse to scare you. After all, texting IS aluxury despite everyone's dependence on it. Finanacial abuse would be if you were relegating her meals to rice and beans only. Look at this, and just about everything else as a financial decision, or a business decision. Do your absolute best to leave the emotion out of it. I know it's hard, and you seem to be having about the worst day of your life today. But, you HAVE to pull it together. You have to go about this as a chance to improve yourself and your finances and everything based on common sense and practicality. Make your decisions on facts, not emotions. If it comes up again from HER (you don't initiate the discussion), you simply say, "look, we're separating, that includes our finances, and I cannot afford texting. It's a luxury and has to go." End of story, if she wants to keep writing more story, leave her alone and go detach.