Intersting perspective that MHL put out there...true, you are not married to him....so she is not really OW although, was she OW when you were still M?
What did DB coach say when you talked with her last about interacting with exH?
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing