C, Right now, everything will appear to be a contradiction to you becuase there is no right or wrong way to deal with MLC. MLC, just like personalities, is different for each and every person going through it. Their childhoods are different, the way they react to things are different and the way their lives play out as adults is different.
The first thing is to protect our assets. Make sure that you are well protected in the financial department. That could mean ensuring that your name is not on joint credit cards w/him, separate bank accounts, etc. The second thing is to take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself and realize that you did not break him, therefore, you can't fix him. The only person that you can control is yourself and what you do w/your life.
Read the postings, take what you need from them and use it. Not every posting will "fit" your needs. You might not realize it at this time, but you will pick up some extremely valuable information as you read the postings.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
