XH is marrying OW after only 5 months of D!!

[lea74]

I havent responded and dont intend to respond to the texts. I never have, I know that I did I wouldnt have a leg to stand on and also dont intend on stooping to their level.

As for questioning my sons, I am going to disagree with you on this one. I am their mother and they are only 8 & 10 and I have every right to know who they are talking to. I actually overheard the coversation as they had put it on speaker phone - the first time they have ever done this. I dont have an issue with my sons liking her, in fact I have told them before that they have to respect her (even though she is a nutter). She has nothing to do with raising them, that I do on my own 24/7.

The reason I was upset, is that this woman has been invading my home for about 2 years now. She used to text my XH (then H) all the time. Regardless of time, occassion etc. Quite frankly I am not prepared to tolerate it anymore. I have turned a blind eye before and it got me a D, so based on her ways of the past I am not prepared for it to happen again with my sons. Quite frankly they are only 8 and 10 and if it wasnt for the D they wouldnt even have a phone. Why does she need to talk to them on the phone anyway??? The reason for the nightly phone calls is so that my XH - their dad - can continue a relationship with them. If it was a once off occassion that would be fine - but I dont trust her and therefore it cant continue. In addition, why cant XH just be satisfied with chatting to his sons each night, rather than continually forcing her onto them. It is not healthly and it is sending a message to my sons, that marriage is disposable and wives can be replaced.

I know that this may be hard for some to understand and I guess I havent included all the facts so it can be hard to judge. I am taking the high ground here, but not at the expense of my faith and beliefs. It is really important to me that my sons know that A is not acceptable and is sinful

There is no cross-over between our homes. My XH even changes them back into the clothes that my sons left our home in on a friday night. Even if it means chaning them in a service station loo!!!

As for his priorities, my XH has now cancelled his mid week visit as the OW travels alot, (she has a place in switzerland) and as he is un/self employed he often tags along. He therefore doesnt feel he can commit to seeing his sons every other thursday based on the unpredicatbality of her travel schedule. Great stepmom she is going to be!!!