make sure that you are not responding to any of the texts that they are sending you

if you are responding in like to what they are saying
then
there will not be any kind of recourse you can take

it will be like a tit for tat sort of thing

I agree with kml...
you honestly shouldn't be questioning the boys during their conversations.

Cori's daughter has to hide the things I give her because her mom will throw them away...how horrible is that

she says I am not her mom so I shouldn't be able to talk to her or call the school etc
but
I have been raising her for 2 years

(that AND I am not a psycho like your exs new gf)

but

keep in mind that it would be easier on your kids if they liked her and didn't feel like they were being disloyal by liking her.