Regarding skiing, or any other family activity, the reason I don't want to do it with W isn't because of anger, or resentment, or as a DBing strategy. It's simply to protect myself. If I could do those things, and not care, and not be pulled back into feeling like we're a family, then sure, why not? But I can't. In a strange bit of irony, I assume it's not totally different from contact with an affair partner. Every time contact is made, the addiction starts all over again, so the best remedy is no contact. I am forced to employ a "no contact" policy with my old family unit.
