A man in full

[LanceSijan]

Can I ask what would be the finacial ramifications of waiting say 6 months or a year would be?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I am with Lance on that question.

I am also about protecting your finances. Fairly.

But I want to point out Grit,

You were ok with DBing before when you were poor, but now that your might win the lottery (hypothetically) you're not so sure?

hrnmmm.

She is interacting nicely with you, with no knowledge of this potential increase in income, but this lawyer now has you worrying about money and what your wife might do?

I think you need to figure out who Grit is, Grit. Because rich or poor, at the core should be the same guy.

[Truegritter]

I think you need to figure out who Grit is, Grit. Because rich or poor, at the core should be the same guy.

Good point.

Very good point.

I am just taking my own advice and trying to protect myself or at least consider protecting myself financially.

It was just the way my lawyer put it

He said there is no advantage financially speaking for you to wait your M out.

I didn't undertsand that before.

It is just a new wrinkle and I am trying to process it.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

He said there is no advantage financially speaking for you to wait your M out

That is pretty telling Grit. Seems like he is only used to people being seperated getting divorced.

From his point of view It makes no advantage for you to stay married either because if you are you don't get to keep all your money instead it goes into a marriage pot.

Sooo, conversely if you did reconcile with your wife who is being nice not knowing how rch you might become, are you going to insist on a post pre-nuptial as part of a boundary?

[LanceSijan]

So is there still a question?

[Truegritter]

are you going to insist on a post pre-nuptial as part of a boundary?

This would be the only thing really for me to consider.

I don't think she would really come after me. That is not her.

She is showing a lot of taking responsibility for her actions lately. And I am hearing guilt from her.

Bottom line is I have to be comfortable with any outcome just like I was the day before yesterday right?

That is my answer I think. It shouldn't be part of who I am.

It was one of the demons I battled when I got here. Letting money define part of me.

It does not any longer and it shouldn't matter that my hard work is bringing me rewards.

In my business as well as my spiritual and emotional pursuits.

Did I just figure this out in less than 1/2 an hour?

Holy Sh!t.

Thanks.

[LanceSijan]

It was inside YOU all the time.

You just needed to be persuaded to see it!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I was being sarcastic about that pre-nup.

Do they even have post pre nups?

Might have to get one before I go to Vegas again...or is my wife more likely to win alot of money?
; p

[TimeHeals]

Do they even have post pre nups?

Yes, and they're called postnuptial agreements

I call them the "Oops what have I done?!" contracts

[Jack_Three_Beans]

...

That is a sad commentary about marriage.

Although I like your term.