Agree, focus on the actions that are important to you and your son. You have class tonight? Have the best class ever and push yourself and have a great weekend with your son...get out of the house and away from your W.
Thanks I was in a deep hole. The car thing is going to piss her off but what ever she can figure it out. I'm not going to [censored] jail so we can have a 2nd car. Plus we are totally in debt and now that I have control of the finances every penny is going into fixing that [censored].
You know thinking about this car situation and the charges and some of the things you guys have been sayings.
Many of you keep saying don't change your pans for her decisions. I think I get that now. She's not my problem. We have one car... so her choices have made that a problem for her. We have financial problems.. her choices make that an issue for her.
My choices are solely for me and my son.
Sort of getting back to the Buddhist teaching I received on Wednesday about not allowing outside events/things affect your happiness. She's external from me now, I don't have to react to her needs.
You are DB'ing and GAL'ing for yourself to make you stonger, healthier and happier regardless of what your W does. You can only control you, your actions and your emotions. The coach has a great thread going on letting them go as well as gucci loafer. It is a must read for everyone in our sitch.
