I knew things were going well enough that it was time to expect some pull back, and I got it today. I have posted before about using facebook to DB and maybe even make OW jealous. Since I am separated from my H, I decided to get creative. Anyway, today I noticed H took “married” off of his profile, as well as taking off his home city. He didn’t change it to divorced, separated, or in a relationship, just removed it. Other than that he hasn’t made any changes that I can see. No new posts since August either.
So now on FB, H has no home and no family. It is a small thing, but it made me feel just awful to see our marriage get deleted. It is something he did in the last day or two also. I’m pretty sure he was still “married” on Wednesday when I posted pics of our pumpkin carving. I had asked his if he cared if I posted pics that had him in them on my FB page and he had said it was fine. This could have been a response to seeing his picture on there, or maybe his OW saw it and got on his case. Don’t know really.
Whatever his reasons, it hurt. Trying to stay focused, but honestly I am expecting him to be pulling back more. We have a Nov 15th ‘date’ to check in on our separation status. A week or so ago I asked him if he wanted to delay it till after the holidays and he said “No, just keep it the same. I can’t even begin to think about it right now though.” We had agreed to check in that day back in August. The idea was to put the divorce on hold till then. We are supposed to decide to continue the separation, file for divorce, or try to get back together. My position has not changed, I want to stay married. I am not sure if H will say he wants to stay separated or file for divorce. Wish we had agreed to a longer time frame.
