I'm not sure what to say...
As a HD man being with a ND woman I can say that I have tried to communicate with her in every way possible, and it ends up the same everytime... an argument, completely opposite of what I was looking for.
I bought the book SSM , read it, left it where she could find it... she found it, yelled at me to leave her alone, gave me back the book and I found that she had written "SEX IS NOT IMPORTANT" on every page in black permanent marker.

She Constantly accuses ME of cheating on her because she thinks the only thing I what is sex.
Wrong... I WANT LOVE ... to feel LOVED...
I swear she is going to drive me to cheat on her...
I'm terrified that one day, I'll just be goin along, doing my daily thing, and... WHAM! A woman acually is nice to me and finds me attractive... I'm sorry, but I may find it difficult to resist and just melt.

I feel that living with a ND woman is pointless. Why am I working so hard to me her needs when mine are just dicounted and rendered meaningless by her. I just feel like a workhorse for woman that barely acts like I exist.