SHould I say I love you?

[gutwrenching]

One thing at a time

Your son needs you NOW and forever. Stop thinking about detaching and focus one one day at a time.

The best things in life are never easy...you are growing from this and will be better in the long run

Nothing is lost, just temporarily out of whack

You can do this, we are all pulling for you

You have a wonderful son that NEEDS you

[gutwrenching]

And don't call your W right now. Just talk to us here. That will help calm down the roller coaster

[gutwrenching]

Judo, don't go silent on us. How about listing out 3 things you are thankful for right now.

How about listing out 3 goals for the weekend

[hurtinhartford]

Judo,

I have not followed your sitch, but Gut and the others are offering great advice. Take one day at a time and focus on enjoying time with your son. Although, at this very moment it sucks and I was in your shoes in July and August life does get better, but you have to want it!! Focus on what makes Judo happy and forget about your W and M for the moment.

[JudoScott]

i'm not I'm trying hard not to cry at work. Had to go to bathroom to cry some.

brb

i just want to die.

I want to see my son tomorrow though. We have plans. I have to teach tonight and tomorrow. I love my friends.

[MakingProgress]

Most of us have been where you are now. It's like being jerked into the twilight zone. If you're not seeing a therapist of psychologist, do so right away. I know I waited longer than I should have. Situations like this rock the foundation of your world and you need to get support in order to process this. But you will process it and it will happen quicker with the proper support.

[JudoScott]

I have a therapist through work right now. Going to see another one after this one runs out in a few weeks.

[JudoScott]

Thank you.. I appreciate every ones help. Its only been 3 1/2 weeks since I got the news, 4 weeks since the affair started, and one week since I really started DBing.

This is all so new still. Trying to remind myself of that.

All my friends who know my wife or have been in this sitch say its likely she'll be back.

My life IS getting better and if she doesn't come back I am going to be a better person regardless.

[MakingProgress]

Yes, it's very fresh. That's when it hurts the most. Glad you have some support.

[pinhead]

Scott,

You can handle this. You'll be amazed at the reservoirs of strength you'll find inside you.