It is not your responsibility to apologize for your H's actions to your children. Your responsibility is to ensure that your children have a nurturing environment and that you love, guide and protect them as they grow up. Your H will have to grow a pair and explain and apologize on his own to your children. If he cannot do that...how can you really respect him?
I am contantly being told that women want a confident man who leads and knows where they are headed, have poise, strength and honor...advice to me from Coach. To be honest NCU from your description of your H I see a child that lashes out at you in tantrums, demoralizes you because he feels bad about himself and has no idea where he is headed. Look clearly in his direction now without romanticizing your M of the past...would you be attracted to the man that he has become?
Again, DB and GAL for yourself and not for your H or your M. Your H is out in orbit he is just hovering around you to keep you on the leash "just in case" and will jetison you once he finds OW.
