Are you looking for permission to have an affair or just venting? I'm gettting tired of listening to you say how awful life is for a HD male. I will grant you that, but it isn't exactly a picnic for a HD female to go without sex either!
Cheat if you want to, just quit acting like you are asking for permission. You aren't going to find it here.
Anyone who has been, or is in your position, has a great amount sympathy for you, just please quit trying to make this a male vs female thing.
