I have been reading this thread with interest, as I have spent hours reading, in IC, in MC, talking through this issue until I established my own boundaries in my relationships.
so, I am going to brave it and jump into the water.
Boundaries are for YOU.. they are what keep you healthy and your values intact and keep you out of co-dependent relationships.
Before you can set and convey your boundary to anyone.. you need a few things that only YOU can do.
1- Know what your own values and limits are (this takes maturity, experience & time to figure out) 2- Love & respect yourself enough to not settle for someone who repeatedly crosses your boundaries.
Yes setting boundaries gets you love.. love for yourself
why is setting boundaries loving yourself??
because you won't let others walk all over you without you standing up for yourself (how ever you choose to express that)
and until you love yourself.. you can't love others.
This is just of the things I have learned on this long, long journey from co-dependency to loving myself more than him.
my 2cents..
Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
