To a LD or ND person, life without sex is ENJOYABLE. For a HD man, life without sex is virtually meaningless. Go over to the Mid Life Crisis boards. Read all those stories about men that have run off with the OW. The left behind wives can not believe that their husbands would throw away family, home, wive, jobs, etc.. for some floosy. There is a pattern here, for good sex, men are willing to give it all up. I was just reading the book His Needs/Her Needs, and in there, Dr. Harley made not of a study that was done of very powerful men, that had money, power, and prestige, and why did they eventually cheat on their wives. These men have EVERYTHING that life could offer, and they said they would give it all up for that one special realtionship with their lover. They openly admit that it is all meaningless unless you have that special relationship as "Lovers".
I know from my own experience that is the women I am with is not my LOVER, then the relationship is pretty much pointless. I have seen LD spouses try to say that marriage is more then sex, that it is about Communication, Trust, Quality Time, etc.. These are all very good needs to be met, but unfortunately, these are needs for LD spouses. Meeting these types of needs will not do anything for a HD male, they are not even in the normal HD males top 5 needs.
I know from my own experience that my wife was my lover at one time, and I would trade EVERYTHING I have today (including my kids, and I do love them very much) if I could have the OLD version of my wife back. I want to spend the rest of my life with my lover, not my companion. To be lovers in my mind requires GREAT sex, anything else is just companions, and being companions is nothing compared to being lovers.
As Dr. Laura says, men are incredibly simple: "Feed 'em, Sex 'em." Do this and you will have a great marriage. NEVER think that what is important to you as the LD female will EVER keep your man satisfied, as his needs are probably NOTHING like yours. IT's ALL ABOUT SEX, LADIES.
