You're obviously very good at planning, CL -- I can see it in how you plan your lessons, your vacations, and stuff for your wife. Put some of that energy into planning your "Anticipated Negative Reactions From My Wife" with her, and how you'd like yourself to handle it.
I bet it works! It'll take time, tho.
Starsky
I'm making a list in my head of anticipated difficult situations with my wife--our weekly ballroom dance venue, any ballroom dance venue, dance lessons, driving in the car wth her, Thanksgiving dinner with her family, dance practice sessions.
Last night at my lesson, the dance teacher asked me if there was anything I needed my W to do differently with our dancing. I wanted to focus on what I could do differently. Maybe I missed an opportunity. I would have said that she needs to be patient with me when I'm learning new dances.
She's threatening to stop lessons with me, because of my "poor" behavior. I need a plan in case she abruptly quits on me. I'm thinking that I would continue to go to dance venues with or without her, and that I would continue lessons with or without her. A mistake would be to allow her to "shut me down."
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
