The "EMOTIONAL" need for sexual fullfillment is usually the most important need a man has. I would say it is even more important to the man then any of the "EMOTIONAL" needs of the woman. I say this not to be sexist, but from what I have read from experts, men effectively put all their eggs in one basket, while the womens needs tend to be more evenly spread out. If you do not meet the man's "EMOTIONAL" need for sexual fulfillment, you basically are destroying him.
So if the HD man has the need for sexual fullfillment, and his wife is incapable of meeting that need, WHAT ARE HIS CHOICES? If he chooses fidelity, this is very honerable, but this is almost worse then death, you literally are living a life with no meaning. Now, many on this board say that it is the responsibility of the man to make himself happy, and to not rely upon the spouse to "VALIDATE" him. Unfortuanately, the need for sexual fullfillment can only be met by the FULL PARTICIAPATION of another person. If the LD spouse has the need for communication, then if the other spouse does not adequately meet that need, the LD spouse can still get that need met in other ways, as in other friends. But the HD male is not so lucky, His choices are the following: 1) To give up sex and his "EMOTIONAL" well being, and therefore give his own life no meaning. 2) To cheat, which obviously is very hard on the relationship as well as his own morals. 3) To divorce, which screws up EVERYBODY involved, and is ALSO against the guys morals and religion. 4) To work to fix the relationship. This is the only option that really promises success without lots of devastation in the short term.
The key to fixing the problem depends upon the LD spouse recognizing the problem. It requires that the LD spouse see the problem as an "EMOTIONAL" needs problem. Many LD spouses will see this as a "PHYSICAL" needs problem, WHICH IS COMPLETELY WRONG. If the LD spouse does not meet the need for "Sexual Fullfillment", the man won't have physical problems, he will have "EMOTIONAL" problems. Since LD spouses usually fo not have this "EMOTIONAL" need, then can not see it as being that important, therefore many of them describe it is a "PHYSICAL" need, therebye diminishing it's importance. Success is most likely when the LD spouse sees it for what it really is, an "EMOTIONAL" need that is required for the "Emotional" well being of the HD spouse. It is SO important, the HD males will do ANYTHING to get it. Look at Bill CLinton, he is the perfect example of a HD male that will RISK EVERYTHING to get his SPECIAL relationships.
