I don't think CTH is being disingenuous with anyone, I think he's just a person, like the rest of us, dealing with a horrible situation which he has had no previous experience in dealing with. He wants to push forward and feel he's getting on with life but also has this underlying pain that keeps popping up. I empathize with that. I just don't think it's the right time for him to be getting out there and dating. What do you say to your date "Yes, I'm separated but I'm doing everything possible to keep the divorce from happening because I don't want it...now, let's talk about you!" Uh, I don't see any second dates coming and if there are CTH should run the other way! Sometimes we all think "I'm ready" and then we get sideswiped by emotions that we weren't expecting. CTH is an action man, he likes to keep pushing forward and, in my opinion, shoves those awkward hurting emotions down deep inside. Yet, when the reality of the big D comes up they shoot to the surface incredibly fast. CTH you can't have it both ways here either, you either stick to your original plan, which means no dating, or you work with wife to end the marriage in the best way possible and then get out there a boogie...or whatever you want to do! I feel for you CTH, I really do! Just please don't date till you're really done.
