I do believe what the fella's here are trying to say is that if it is let known to the w or ld spouse that needs are not being met and the w or ld spouse chooses to not take action to atempt to meet those needs why would they (the w or ld spouse) then be surprised to learn of infidelity???
No it's not an exuse but it sure as hell is an explenation something so many people who's spouse have an affair want an answer to...well there ya've got one.
