Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[gutwrenching]

Be prepared, mentally/emotionally, for a serious pullback or for her to go deeper undercover. I hope not, but don't want to see you unprepared.

You probably shocked her by standing up for yourself and setting a boundary. She respected it so much, she talked to you. That is good.

However, now chances are high she'll talk to OM again. She will continue with the addiction. She could run back to him or plot on how to keep it more of a secret caue HIL is not playing games any longer.

Why do I say this...cause I saw both happen to me after I gave W the stop, he's more than a friend, I won't live in an open M speech. We talked/communicated for a few hours...then a huge pullback and anger. Then as I much later learned, they went deep undercover and I didn't see it...